Last night’s conversation with my wife, Tia, lead to an interesting topic for discussion. We wanted to both engage in a 30-day challenge, consisting of doing anything that caused us to better ourselves through discipline and time-management. We were both responsible for choosing each other’s challenge. Her challenge to me was to get bigger in body weight and muscle. This was honestly no surprise to me, because she had hinted that she wanted this in me countless times before. If she had requested and hinted this to me many times in the past, then…
Why did she have to request it again?
After giving me my challenge, we both realized that her request was nothing new. So, she posed the question, “Do you think all spouses ignore each other’s requests?” She didn’t pose this question as a low-blow or anything. It was an honest and genuine question of interest. So we thought about it and came to the conclusion that most spouses probably do go through this ordeal in one way or another. That’s what lead me to write this article.
So let’s dive deeper into the situation.
I’m a fairly skinny guy. I personally believe that it’s partially due to my fast metabolism. But no excuses, right? It’s a little bit harder for me to gain weight – however, it’s definitely more than possible because I’ve done it before. There have been times when Tia hinted that she would like for me to be a little bigger. So I’d oblige to her request. The problem is that I only obliged temporarily. I’d be super motivated to go to the gym, or crank out push-ups, sit-ups and squats at home until my body couldn’t do anymore exercising for that day. Then eventually, I’d take a day off. 1 day turned into 2 days, which turned into a week, which turned into not working out at all. Other times, Tia would hint that she’d like my body to be a little bigger and I would say, “Ok, honey I’m going to start working out.” But I’d never get to it. At the end of the day,
1) Working out, then stopping and
2) Saying I would workout, without ever doing so was simply…
Ignoring her request.
Asking me to get bigger isn’t unreasonable. If my wife wants to see some more meat on me, that’s what she deserves. I’ve come to realize that it isn’t right to ignore her requests or put them on the backburner. That’s the point I want to make today. Sometimes when our spouse asks us to do something, we either do it temporarily or we don’t do it at all. That’s like saying, what you want from me isn’t important enough for me to take permanent action, so oh well. Does your spouse deserve a “so, oh well?”
Of course not.
Starting earlier this morning, I began to take permanent action on my wife’s request. It will take discipline, because I won’t always feel like working out. It will take time management skills, because I have a busy life. But marriage is all about sacrificing and putting the needs/desires of your spouse before your own. In 2 months, my wife will be amazed at my results. After I get those results, I will keep striving to maintain her request through working out and exercise.
I urge you all:
Take heed to the request/hints of your spouse and take them seriously. You’ll be happy at what the results will render in both of you!
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