Let’s be real for a second. Lying is easy. It’s convenient, requires no effort and conceals harsh realities. That’s why you do it. Right, fellas? You’ve all probably lied to your wife in one form or another. You’d probably be lying if you deny that. Right?
The biggest reason lying is “convenient” in marriage is because it prevents you from “getting in trouble” with your wife. It prevents arguments, fights and saves you from getting dumped like a high school kid. After all, what she doesn’t know won’t hurt her. Right?
Wrong. Hiding behind lies is shallow. It’s really not convenient in the long run and it can destroy your marriage faster than you can say, “I’m sorry.” Do you really want to know the downside of lying to your wife? Here’s 4 solid reasons for you:
1. It becomes habitual.
Anything you do consistently enough will eventually become a habit. Being a habitual liar is one of the worst traits a husband (or wife for that matter) can ever have. Becoming a habitual liar is dangerous. Before you know it, lies will be the first things to fly out of your mouth; and you won’t even think twice about it. Habitual liars become so consumed in their lies that they start to believe their own lies are the truth. No wife wants a marriage based on lies concealed as the truth.
2. It leads to bigger consequences.
Some men are afraid to tell the truth because they think it will cause his wife to hate him, or an argument might break out, it may cause a break-up, etc. Telling the truth may (and actually probably will) bring about consequences. BUT, what’s even worse is lying and then having your wife find out about it later on down the line. That brings about much bigger consequences. Why? Because you told your wife a lie and then allowed her to believe it for a period of time. There’s nothing like when a woman feels she’s been living in a lie. Fellas, you’re way better off telling her the truth initially. Yeah, it may be hard. But she’ll respect you much more for being real with her upfront. The both of you will suffer much less.
3. It breaks trust.
This one is pretty much a no-brainer. Every time you choose to lie and your wife finds out about it — trust dwindles down. The more you lie, the less she trusts you. The less she trusts you, the more damaged the marriage becomes. Trust is one of your most valuable assets in marriage. Don’t let her trust in you die because of lies.
4. She’ll end up finding out anyways.
As I’ve hinted previously in this post, in most cases, your wife will find out that you lied to her. You know the saying: “what’s done in the dark, will come to light.” The truth always has a way of revealing itself. It may not happen immediately, but does happen eventually. It’s better if the truth comes from you rather than it being revealed to your wife by some other means.
Fellas, at the end of the day, lying is pointless. No woman wants a lying husband (and vise versa ladies). So do you and your wife a favor. Stop lying.
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