Just Admit That You’re Wrong and Get Over It!

you're wrongWhen you think about it, pride is as sickening to marriage as disease is to the body. Too much pride will slowly deteriorate your marriage and cause it to eventually die. Fellas, do you know where pride sticks out the most in marriage?

(Note: although this post is written to address husbands, it easily applies to wives as well. So ladies, please listen up!)

Refusing to admit that you’re wrong!

That sounds all too familiar, doesn’t it? Or do you have too much pride to admit that too?

See, too often, we have so much pride stored up in us that we never want to admit when we’re wrong. Even if we know deep down inside that we are at fault. Don’t believe me? Take a trip down memory lane for a second. Recall some of the times when you argued with your wife or got in a dispute of some sort with her. I bet there were times when you simply refused to admit you were wrong. And what did that do? Cause the argument to escalate. You put your wife through unnecessary drama by avoiding what was necessary: being a man and accepting that you were wrong.

You know what I have to say to that type of husband?

Just admit that you’re wrong and get over it!

Seriously. It’s better to admit you’re wrong and work to de-escalate the situation, than to embrace your pride, refuse to admit and escalate the situation. If you don’t nip your pride in the bud, eventually your wife will get fed up. I don’t think damaging or losing your marriage is worth hanging on to that much pride.

Am I saying to admit you’re wrong just because? No. If you truly aren’t wrong, then don’t falsely admit that you were wrong. You should definitely still work to resolve the situation peacefully, though.

What I’m saying is that if you’re truly wrong (and 99% of the time you know when you’re wrong) then you ought to just admit it and get over it!

My wife pointed out something very interesting the other day when we were talking about this. She said usually couples in a relationship don’t like to admit wrong, because they see it as a form of defeat. But guess what? You and your wife are on the same team — so she can’t defeat you! Nor can you defeat her. You’re not pitted against each other — you’re supposed to work with each other. Admitting fault simply conveys to your wife that you understand your error and that you made a mistake. To me, that’s victory, because by accepting your faults, you’ve taken one step closer to resolving the matter and reconciling with your wife! You get victory, not defeat fellas!

So the next time you commit error, I hope you throw away your pride, admit you’re wrong and just get over it!

Has there been times when you let pride get in the way?

Micheal Boyd
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Micheal Boyd

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Micheal is the owner and writer of Agape Her, where he publishes articles on marriage advice. His passion for marriage and writing inspires him to encourage husbands to love their wives unconditionally -- as God intended. Be sure to check out his awesome books! You can contact Micheal at: micheal@agapeher.com
Micheal Boyd
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Micheal Boyd

Micheal is the owner and writer of Agape Her, where he publishes articles on marriage advice. His passion for marriage and writing inspires him to encourage husbands to love their wives unconditionally -- as God intended. Be sure to check out his awesome books! You can contact Micheal at: micheal@agapeher.com

2 Comments

  1. I don’t agree that “99% of the time you know when you’re wrong”. Most of the fights I’ve had occur when one or both of us is wrong without being self-aware enough to notice.

    Your advice is incomplete. In order to get to the point where you know when you’re wrong 99% of the time, you have to first develop the introspective skill required to do so.

    Your advice would ruin many relationships I think… because people could read this and say “well he says I’ll just know when I’m wrong 99% of the time, and since I don’t think that I’m wrong right now in the moment, I must be right!!” Which will lead to bad arguments.

    Even your article is internally contradictory in this regard. You should say that IN RETROSPECT you realize your mistakes 99% of the time. That is very different from realizing it in the moment. I think you are well meaning but I would not recommend people to follow this advice.

    • Charlie,

      Thanks for reading and for your meaningful comment. I get your point. I didn’t necessarily mean you know you’re wrong right in the heat of the argument. However as you mentioned, most of the time, we end up realizing that we’re wrong. In that case, it’s bad to hang on to pride and refuse to admit you’re wrong. The bigger picture of this article was to learn how to be humble, evaluate yourself and accept responsibility for your errors. Whether that was articulated perfectly is obviously debatable.

      Anyways, I do appreciate your comment.

      – Micheal

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