I always used to wonder how someone claiming to be a “man” could ever abuse his wife. How could he treat her so horribly and so rashly without any hint of remorse? I could never wrap my head around that. It puzzled me so much that it would irritate me more and more every time I saw a “man” abuse his wife.
Notice I keep putting quotations around “man.” I don’t care how masculine any “man” is — if he abuses his wife, he’s not worthy of such an honorable title. I’m just being real.
So back to my rant. When I say abuse, I’m talking all forms of abuse. Physical. Mental. Emotional. If it has anything to do with treating a woman badly, it qualifies — especially if that abuse is ritual (or occurs on a regular basis). But don’t get me wrong: abuse that occurs on an irregular basis is bad too.
For a while, I pondered this abuse dilemma; until I ran across this:
In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. – Ephesians 5:28
Wow. Read that again and let it sink in.
Now let me break it down for you.
The verse literally says that a man who loves his wife, loves himself. So it’s safe to say that a man who doesn’t love his wife, doesn’t love himself. Am I right? The only reason a man won’t love himself is if he isn’t happy with himself. Watch this. A man who isn’t happy with himself, turns around and takes it out on his wife! See, if a man is disappointed with who he is, where he is in life — if he is bitter about his childhood — whatever the case may be — the wife normally gets lashed out on for it!
It’s simple: abusive men are unhappy with themselves (due to whatever reason), therefore they don’t love themselves, and since they don’t love themselves, they can’t love their wives. In turn, abusive men take the dislike or hate that they have for their own selves and turn that negative energy into abusing their wives.
If a man is bitter within himself, he’ll be bitter towards his wife!
This isn’t an excuse for men to be abusive. It’s a wake up call for men to begin attacking the issue within (not his wife), and learning how to love himself, so he can truly love his wife!
Abusive men: wake up, now!
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