Have you ever heard a couple arguing, calling each other names or belittling one another in public? What did you think? You probably didn’t think good thoughts towards them. Nor did you quickly forget about it. It probably prompted you to initiate a conversation with someone about the ugly scene you’d just witnessed. Let’s face it. Every marriage/relationship has it’s differences. Husband and wife aren’t always in agreement. Sometimes one spouse annoys the mess out of another. Unwise words and actions can easily spark a heated argument that can spiral out of control. There are many aspects in communication that can result in an argument. But the key is knowing when and more importantly where to settle your disputes. Let me tell you now: the public is not one of those places to argue. I’ll show you why.
1) It looks horrible.
Plain and simple. Arguing with your husband or wife looks horrible to others. If you’re out in public yelling and screaming at the top of your lungs you draw attention to your situation. This invites the public (whether they know you are not) to automatically form an opinion about your relationship. Arguing in public makes your relationship seem like it’s always in bad condition, even if it’s really not. I don’t know of any couple who want to make their relationship look bad to others. Don’t let your anger get the best of you in public (or in private for that matter). People are always watching. Some of you might be thinking, I don’t care about other people’s opinions. I’m not telling you to be overly obsessed with others opinions. But what I am telling you is that you should care enough about the character and integrity of your relationship to protect the appearance of it. After all, your relationship should be a model that reflects how God expects relationships to flourish.
2) It makes you relentless against your partner.
For some strange, odd reason, when you argue in public it makes you more relentless towards your partner. When people are watching you two verbally fight, you’ll get this notion on the inside of you to prove your point no matter what. You don’t want your spectators to look like you’ve lost the battle, so you become more aggressive. You do all you can to refrain from looking weak. But at the end of the day, your relentless arguing will make your relationship look weak. Both husbands and wives should have enough love, patience and respect for one another to agree to settle their dispute in the confidentiality of their home. Blowing up on each other in public will only make things more heated.
3) Gives people room to talk about your relationship.
As I hinted in my first point, when people see you arguing in public, they not only form an opinion, but they also begin to talk negatively about your relationship. Rumors will begin to spread and before you know it, everyone will begin to look at you and your relationship differently. Arguing in public opens the door for the public to get in your marital business. But guess what? What you and your husband or wife go through is no one’s business. It’s between you, your spouse and God. But it’s up to you and your spouse to keep it that way. Don’t let the world in on your problems. As far as the world can see, your relationship should seem blissful at all times.
Arguing is inevitable. But those differences ought to be settled in the secrecy of your home. When you do settle those disputes, always remember to remain respectful towards one another. Calling each other names and screaming at each other won’t get you anywhere. Hear each other out, forgive each other and put it behind you. Remember, keep your issues between you, your spouse and God. No one else needs to know your business.
Latest posts by Micheal Boyd (see all)
- How to Be HIM Again (The Man of Her Dreams) - October 23, 2015
- When You’ve Stopped Being the Man Your Wife Once Loved - October 22, 2015
- Do You Really Believe in Your Marriage? - October 22, 2015